It’s Summer! Accidental Drownings Account For 91% of U.S. Deaths

oab blog postIn 2012, the National Autism Association found that from 2009 to 2011, accidental drowning’s accounted for 91% of total U.S. deaths.  23% of children, who died following a wandering incident, were in the care of someone other than a parent.  Last November, a study showed that 49% of children with autism are prone to wandering; a rate four times higher than their unaffected siblings.  The data also showed that only 50% of parents living with autism had received advice about wandering prevention from a professional.  Sadly, many in our community are unaware that wandering is even an autism related issue. 

Part of Hope for Three’s mission is to share valuable information to not only the autism community, but all friends and neighbors.

We ask that you please share these educational resources with loved ones, families, teachers, and first responders.  To do this, visit and download the “Big Red Safety Toolkit” on wandering prevention.

Be proactive.  Be safe.  Be aware.   Additional resources may be found by visiting:

Helping families is part of why Hope for Three exists.  To learn more about the programs and services we offer and, how you can help make real change happen, SAVE THE DATE for the Third Annual Light Lunch and Dazzling Desserts Luncheon: September 12, 11:30am – 1:30pm at the Estate Home of Brenda and Randy Bartley.

Wishing everyone a safe summer!

Individuals on the Spectrum

While it is now common knowledge that roughly 1 in every 88 AmericanNew pic to post where ever needed children is diagnosed on the autism spectrum, there is a dearth of statistics about, and services for, adults on the spectrum. According to author and autism advocate Linda Davis, “Assuming that rate holds, by 2016, less than a decade from now, the number of American adults (those 22 and over) with autism is expected to be nearly 1.5 million.” The Autism Society realizes the needs of adults on the autism spectrum are different than those of children and need to be addressed through a variety of service systems. The goal for our society should be adults who are gainfully employed, are in living situations that are as independent as possible, and who have healthy, enjoyable social and community outlets. For those individuals who may not be able to achieve all of these milestones, it is crucial they be supported throughout the lifespan to ensure the highest quality of life possible.

Decide if you CHOOSE to accept your autism. It’s a good idea to, because autism makes you the person you are, and you are unique. Remember Autism isn’t cured, its managed… And do what you like.

You aren’t the only one with autism. 1.5% of the world is autistic. That means more than three million people are born with autism or develop it a silent trigger that is ignited at some point in their life.

You are NOT disabled no matter what other people say. You are a person inside just like everyone else.

Ignore others that look at you the wrong way. Ignore peers that think you’re strange or awkward, they are ignorant. Find autistic peers as well as kind, considerate people that will be true friends with you and others whom identify in the brilliance of the divinity of your nature. As well as love and see you for you through embracing eyes.

Find your own best friend similar to you. Have meltdowns together if you need to. Scratch yourself with different body parts together. Wear matching clothes, talk about numbers, the otherworld, or play telepathy games…. you may just need someone who knows you and can just be still with you in that moment of what that experience looks like for you both with complete acceptance.  Life is too short to have ZERO friends, even for forty-and-fifty year olds.

Be yourself!!! 


Autism 101: What We Know Today

Despite growing awareness and advances in treatment, this fast-growing developmental disorder has enormous personal, family, and economic impact – and no known cure.

– 1 in 50 children have an autism spectrum disorder

– At 10-17% annual growth in cases, it’s the fastest-growing developmental disability

– Effects 1 to 1.5 million Americans

– Symptoms appear by age 3

– 5x more prevalent in males

– $60 billion in annual costs, $3.2 million over an individual’s lifespan

– No known cure, but early treatment can help

– Surge in cases may be due to better diagnosis, wider awareness, and broader definitions

Click on the Infographic below for more statistics on Autism.


Toe Walking the Spiritual Connection

As I move forward in the unveiling of my perspective of life through Autistic eyes.  I find it very intriguing that there has been a tremendous increase of children being diagnosed with Autism in the past decade alone and what most believe this to be as it relates to Autism. I am learning that many people would like to know about toe walking differently. So, with the open minded one I propose….Is it possible that there is indeed no coincidence and these cases are part of some divine plan to help humankind in our spiritual evolution? In short the aspect of toe walking is the aspect of which the autistic connects with his or her truth or spirit, soul; however you receive that to be. There is nothing wrong…. I am a toe walker, and I am most comfortable when doing so, and I assuredly do not need someone trying to change me or tell me something is wrong.

In explaining this moderately let’s ask…  Are we all to become more caring and loving individuals and those with Autism are our teachers in this area? Enforced universally by the attention to detail that their life existence requires to stay balanced and cognitive. Is there a reason greater than our understanding that Autism is part of some master plan of a Higher Power to help the world be a better place?
What is Autism?
“Autism is a complex developmental disability that typically appears during the first three years of life and is the result of a neurological disorder that affects the normal functioning of the brain, impacting development in the areas of social interaction and communication skills. Both children and adults with autism typically show difficulties in verbal and non-verbal communication, social interactions, unique behaviors, expressions, observations, and what are NT activities. One should keep in mind however, that autism is a spectrum disorder and it affects each individual differently and in varying degrees – this is why early diagnosis is so crucial. By learning the signs, a child can begin benefiting from one of the many specialized interventionprograms.”

“Autism is one of five disorders that falls under the umbrella of Pervasive Developmental Disorders (PDD), a category of neurological disorders characterized by “severe and pervasive impairment in several areas of development.”
The five disorders under PDD are:
• Autistic Disorder
• Asperger’s Disorder
• Childhood Disintegrative Disorder (CDD)
• Rett’s Disorder
• PDD-Not Otherwise Specified (PDD-NOS)
“Each of these disorders has specific diagnostic criteria which has been outlined in the American Psychiatric Association’s Diagnostic & Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-IV-TR).” From The Autism Society of America –
Characteristics of Autism

“Children with autism demonstrate behaviors from three characteristic domains. The First Domain is Impairments in Social Interaction. A child with autism may show poor eye gaze, may not want to be touched or hugged, may not understand that other people are not thinking about the same things they are thinking about, and may not understand facial expressions.
The Second Domain is Impairments in Communication. Children with autism may have limited verbal speech, or use words without an attached meaning. They may repeat words back to you (echolalia) and their language may not be used to convey meaning in a typical context.
The Third Domain is Stereotyped Behaviors. A child with autism may engage in rocking, spinning, toe walking or hand flapping, may demonstrate hyper/hypo-sensitivity to sensory stimuli, and may adhere to strict routines.
However, children with autism do not all show the same behaviors in each of those domains. This is how children with Autism are different from each other. Autism presents as a spectrum of behaviors from mild to severe.” From the Educator’s Guide Experiencing Autism – Video
Being Human

We human beings are made up of four components.
1. The Physical (of the Body),
2. The Mental (of the Mind),
3. The Emotional (of the Heart)
4. The Spiritual (of the Spirit).
Each of the components has a function of its own and work interdependently of one another and together comprising a human being or the attributes of being human. If any of these four components are out of balance, we experience “dis-ease”. When we experience “dis-ease” in the body, it becomes sickness; when in the mind, it becomes mental illness of sorts; in the heart, it becomes “heart ache” or emotional disorders and in the spiritual, it is viewed as being “spiritually disconnected”.

What if? Let’s go into this….. The heartache of the Autistic is impacting in ways that now cannot convey in words. The shock to the neurological system during this occurrence depending on the degree of the impact and individual capacity to recover from the depth of the impact is one or two things.  The body system functions will completely dysfunction in the state if a complete overland or aspects of the whole will begin to shut down due to the disconnect from the shock of the inability to comprehend the impact of the heartache. Note. The depth of the severity of the spiraling waves are also concurrent to the strength of the immune system. This type of trauma has serious consequences on the immune system in accordance with the brain for the recovery of all systems congruently. Recalls rating the brain will begin to allow the physical reality to reconnect in stages and consistency of the learned needs that each specific individual needs.  As no two are the same and no two have the same experience or strength. Mind, body, and spirit…. Take a look at the question… Is part of us that is true spirit, the part that is unseen (though we all know exists), the part that makes the you in you, decided that once it became human it didn’t really like it here? Or, are you more than human, but haven’t integrated the higher reality in your DNA until a predetermined point in the journey of life? And if so, what’s the trigger that induces the shift? What does it look like? Simply based on all the trials and tribulations of modern day earth and all the miseries inflicted by humans upon other humans, this spirit, this being came to the conclusion that life on earth is just too difficult to deal with. Spirits decision before incarnation chooses lessons that sometimes have profound suffering involved. Spirit when making this agreement doesn’t understand the reality of human suffering and when we arrive it is often too much too bare on many levels.

But what to do? Once this spirit, this being has incarnated into human form it cannot go back to where it came from so perhaps it locks itself up in its own world, the world of Autism, where no one, or nothing can hurt this precious being. A world where this precious being does not need to interact with others so there is no risk of harm. This note I can identify with.  And will say that in my reality I don’t differentiate and don’t understand harm. I know now through certain events in my life that this is a real and true aspect of life. I still don’t get it and I am that I am, and I stay near to my sage environments and those whom I trust and know what my reality is.

For the aware…..lets go into a new level in observance of the lien child of the autistic…
What if this spirit is an advanced soul or this human being has
hyper-sensitive (overly sensitive) senses?  IE the innate frequency of the authentic being beyond self.

There is the case of Dr. Temple Grandin, who is Autistic; she is a professor at Colorado State University and a professional designer of “humane” slaughterhouses.
(See and She has extraordinary abilities with animals. Is she not a spiritual teacher, instructing mankind on the humane treatment of animals? Her hyper-sensitivity lets her observe things that though are present, are not viewed as important to the rest of us, and yet she has revolutionized the cattle industry. Her pioneering research in the field of animal behavior makes her a sought after expert in her field and makes her quite in demand for her paid professional services. Is she eccentric or does she possesses spiritual gifts that need to be better understood like other people with Autism?

Love transcends all space and time. Autistics have chosen their parents to show them and in this being the choosing of this parent(s), this family to incarnate into to learn some life lessons to evolve their soul and to teach their parent(s) as well? Perhaps the reason these children are here, in this vast quantity is to teach their parents (and all of us for that matter) about love. Not the kind of “selfish” love where one is wrapped up in their own world and being narcissistic, but a “self less” love where we love ourselves in a healthy way and reach out to others to help them. By helping those with Autism are we not in turn helping ourselves and learning more about love?
It is my belief the children of Autism are here to teach us about love and to be better people. Teaching does not always need to be verbal with books in a classroom and a white board; it can also be non-verbal and one-on-one. Are the children of Autism our spiritual teachers? Are they here to educate us about love? Are they here to instruct us how to come out of ourselves in order to help them come out of themselves?


The following are some suggested guided meditations and visualizations to help caretakers that have loved ones with Autism. The exercises here are meant to be used “in addition to and not instead of” any current professionals and healing modalities you are working with.
These guided meditations and visualizations are meant to be experienced; however you can get enough of an understanding to do them yourself or to work with someone else to help you create the exercises.

1. Meditation – Spirit to Spirit

Meditation simply described is aligning Mind, Body, Emotions and Spirit, so that these components function as one. Meditating is the practice of quieting the mind of all its chatter to enable you to be open to the thoughts of God (the God of your understanding in whatever expression you identify with in this), the thoughts of the Universe, your Higher Self or your belief system is regarding a higher consciousness.
If you have never meditated before, the following exercise will help you achieve a meditative state of mind. It is very simple, enjoyable and is called the “1 – 2 – 3 – 4” Method of Meditation. Find a nice, quiet place where you will not be disturbed. You may want to create some sacred space for these exercises. A place away from all distractions, noise and that is peaceful.

Once in this conscious state of meditation, and without stress or strain, in your mind, just say the loved one’s name that is experiencing Autism. Ever so gently, without force and with love, call out to the loved one and just ask him/her how you can help them or ask anything you like, then just wait and see what comes up.
Here, in essence you are communicating with your loved one that is experiencing Autism, “Mind – to – Mind” (or “Soul – to – Soul) (Telepathically). You are sending out a message in your mind to that person. In return you may receive a message back in the form of a “picture” (Clairvoyance (Seeing)) in your mind that may flash for an instant, or you may “feel” something (Clairsentience (Feeling/Touching), or you may “hear” something (Clairaudience (Hearing/Listening)), you may come to “know” something (Claircognizance (Knowing)), you may “smell” something (Clairalience (Smelling)), or have a “taste” of something (Clairgustance (tasting)), just be open and let go and see what comes up.
When you receive a message or multiple messages have an audio recorder by your side or write them down as soon as you get out of or while in the meditative state. Keep a journal handy and write down the date and time and what message you received regardless of whether or not it makes sense at the time. Then every few weeks look back at your journal and observe if there is some type of insight, message or pattern that may lead you to a better understanding about the person with Autism.

2. Guided Mediation Experiencing Autism

Guided mediation and creative visualization are techniques whereby another person, with their voice instructs you to take a journey, in your mind, to help you have a certain experience. It can be experiencing a trip to the beach, the mountains, instructing you to profoundly relax in a way you have never relaxed before or it can be to help you to experience something you have never experienced before.
In this guided mediation, first you achieve a meditative state, and then you will be taking a journey to experience the life of someone that has Autism.
Start by relaxing your body, beginning with the top of your head. Pay special attention to your respirations and breathing. Mentally breathe and release all the tension and strain in your face, the back of your head, shoulders, arms, elbows, wrists, hand and fingers. Then do the same to your upper back, your mid-back, lower back, your chest, stomach, into your pelvis, down your legs, your thighs, knees, calves, ankles, and feet and out your toes. With every breathe that you take, with every beat of your heart you become more calm and more relaxed.
Activate your imagination and picture a well-lit flight of stairs, seven steps in all, a well-lit flight of stairs leading up to a large double door. This is the entrance to the most beautiful place could ever imagine. Now mentally see yourself walking up the well-lit flight of stairs until you reach the top step, then the doors open into the most beautiful place in the world, the most beautiful place you could ever envision. Now in this, the most beautiful place in the world, notice a building to your right and door with a sign on it that states “Autism Experience”. Go into that room and notice in corner of the room a space suit. This space suit has the ability, once you get into to it to help you experience some of the characteristics of someone that has Autism. When in public, others will just see you as a normal person without the space suit.
Now get into the space suit. You will notice there are speakers in the headpiece. These speakers will tell you how to act when with other people and/or when in public. Follow the instructions as they are spoken to you without judging them. After you place the space suit on, you will see a door marked “Playground” now walk through the door and you will be in a playground with other children.
As you are walking onto the playground you see a group of children and you go to them. They are playing with one another, holding, hugging and touching each other as children often do. The children ask you to play with them and you do not feel right about that, as you are there just to enjoy the day and the playground. You won’t look the children in the eyes for any period of time or not at all as you do not know these children. And they are making certain facial expressions that you just don’t understand. Shouldn’t children be happy on a playground? Yet some are happy, some are not, some are sad, some are angry and some faces look mean! That does not make any sense at all! This is starting to get you a little frustrated!
You do not understand what they are thinking about as they are playing and yet they are talking about other things. Are they thinking about playing or thinking about other things? You are not sure. Why would you not think and talk about playing if you are playing? You also feel uncomfortable when they want to play with you and hug or hold you. You are not sure about this touching thing. Usually just the people close to you touch you and these are a bunch of strangers. This is getting more frustrating and you really don’t understand their behaviors!
You’re speaking in your head but the words are not coming out of your mouth so well or not at all. These words are difficult for you to use. You’re talking to people in your mind , why can’t they understand you? This talking thing is a lot of work! People should be able to understand you without having to talk. You’re getting even more frustrated!
You’re really getting overloaded with all this stuff, the sounds, bright lights, smells, people and lots, lots more. It’s all too much for you to handle. You think you’re going to stay to yourself and just play by yourself. You’re going to spin things around, spin yourself around and carry around your “thing”. Your thing never gives you any trouble. It’s doesn’t talk back to you or want anything. It’s just there and you like that. There is a lot going on in this big world and some of it’s not so good. There are lots of bad things happening, bad people doing bad things to nice people. It just doesn’t make any sense at all. In your inner world everything is just fine and no one is hurting anyone else or doing bad things.
Well it’s time for you to leave the playground and go back to the building and take off your space suit.
You walk back in your mind to the building and walk through the door marked “Autism Experience”. There you take off your space suit and place it on the rack that you originally got it from. You leave the building and go back to your most beautiful place in the world the most beautiful place you could ever imagine.
You see the door to the flight of stairs and you walk down them ever so gently, ever so slowly. You take 5 deep breathes and with each breathe you slowly come back to the here and now feeling refreshed, re-energized and re-vitalized, having had a pleasant experience, and getting a better understanding of the world for a person with Autism.
This is just a brief insight using guided imagery to help you experience the life of a person with Autism. I would encourage you to read up on the various characteristics of Autism to get a much better understanding of the various behaviors. As some behaviors may be a combination and may vary to their degree and severity.

3. Creative Visualization experiencing wellness with Autistic person, family members, friends and other people

In this creative visualization exercise you want to do the same part of the exercise as above with the seven steps, however this time the door will open, you will be in your beautiful place again and you will be experiencing a life of wellness for your loved one with Autism and your entire family with all parties achieving wellness, with wellness being anything you want it to mean. In your visualizations see the person with Autism reaching their full potential, achieving their goals, being happy and doing their purpose on earth. See all the parties, being happy, joyous and full of love.
No one knows what the future holds for any of us so why not make it a future full of hope,happiness and good things. It has been written, “what the mind can conceive it can achieve”, so visualize good things and place it in the hands of your Higher Power.
Perform all these exercises for a period of 21 to 30 days to attain the total effectiveness of what these exercises have to offer.

This has been a brief look at Autism and the various characteristics of the challenges it brings. We are more than our bodies; we are made of the physical, mental, emotional and spiritual. These four components makes us homo-sapiens human. I would ask that you be “open to the possibility” that Autism may require some “out of the box thinking” using some non-traditional ways to work with those that have Autism. Keep in mind that the cellular phone was science fiction as seen on the television show “Star Trek” and now it is science fact as common place as a cup of coffee? Those with Autism, their loved ones and caregivers need open minded support and understanding in accordance to try things that may help them flourish. To propel them and advance them into a place to have a chance at a full, productive and happy life.
The exercises presented in this articles are “in addition to and not instead” of the modern day medical protocols used for Autism. Eating right, exercise and taking vitamins are things we do in addition to whatever “dis-ease” we may have to provide support to us. These exercises are additional tools in the Autism “tool box” to help caregivers better understand Autism and hoping to achieve some serenity as well.
Modern man does not always possess the answers to everything or in a manner that is readily understood. Sometimes answers come from a place that we may not fully understand but provide us with everything we need. It is my belief that God would not provide us with problems without solutions. Ask yourself why the autistic has entered your life? Look at the potential simplicity in it as a possible component to bring to you that love in conjunction to certain modern day life. Love is a frequency vibration. True love exudes a frequency that is felt, not described it the knowingness of feeling. Assist in support and learning protocols for healthy living for those that have Autism. The intention to support them being here with ease takes you into a whole new love frequency right there.  Applying the simplest things in life for them that are so hard allows them to accomplish their calling of sharing the vibration to expand into a new energy. Love might just be the key to unlock the mystery of Autism.


Sensory Processing

Let’s go into sensory thresholds of Autism and what happens during an overload and why. Speaking for myself an overload moment is usually a progressive building of new information that I am trying to calibrate to and remember. There are steps that need to be taken for me to clearly understand and identify with what is new in a slow and concise manner in order for me not to literally “check out” so to speak.  Points of limitation when it comes to identifying with new environments, change or new information are definitely aspects to be acknowledged to prevent what I call a malfunction… I know my threshold is being approached when I cannot retain information, conversation, keep up or when I cannot respond. The best example I give to you during an event when I need to be in stillness to recharge and connect, is like a no-off switch.  Or a person who is in a coma and whom is aware yet they cannot respond. I am always aware even when I seem not to be during a moment when I am quiet or slowing down through a conversation or lengthy dialogue. One must understand that sensory processing is a complex set of actions that enable the brain to understand what is going on both inside your own body and in the world around you.

First you must understand the difference between Sensory Processing and Sensory Acuity. Sensory acuity is the actual physical ability of the sensory organs to receive input, while sensory processing is the ability to interpret the information the brain has received. We address acuity needs with devices such as glasses and hearing aids. We address processing needs with changes in activities, instructions, environments and practice. The intervention sections will delve into ideas for processing needs in more detail.

Your brain has a lot of work to do throughout the day. There is a continuous flow of information available from all the sensory systems, and the brain must sort through the information, prioritize and emphasize components, to decide both how to understand what is going on and to decide what you will do based on the information available.

When we were beginning to study sensory processing, we learned that there were two primary factors that contributed to our understanding of the overall concept of sensory processing. The first factor to consider is neurological thresholds, or the way the nervous system responds to sensory input.

The second factor to consider is self regulation strategies that a person uses; these may be associated with your temperament and personality. Self regulation strategies are the ways that people manage the input that is available to them.

Within this perspective, we talk about RESPONSIVENESS to refer to the way that you respond to demands in your life. Many things can affect your responsiveness, including the demands of an activity, the characteristics of environments or the way that a person’s self-regulation strategies affect daily life. When your nervous system is responding too much, we call it hyper-responsive (or overresponsive), and when you are responding too little, we call it hypo-responsive (or under responsive). We all have times when we are hyper responsive or hypo-responsive; it is only when an extreme response interferes with everyday life that we would worry about this.

When you look at the relationship between neurological thresholds and self-regulation strategies, we can identify four basic patterns of responding to sensory events in everyday life. Let’s look at each one in turn; you can look at the diagram to see how they fit together.

Sensation Seeking is the combination of high neurological thresholds and an active self-regulation strategy.

Low Registration is the combination of high neurological thresholds and a passive self-regulation strategy.

Sensation Avoiding is the combination of low neurological thresholds and an active self-regulation strategy.

Sensory Sensitivity is the combination of low neurological thresholds and a passive self-regulation strategy.

In addition to considering these patterns of sensory processing, you have to also consider how each of your sensory systems responds. You probably won’t have the same responses with each sensory system. For example, you might have sensitivity for sounds, and yet not notice visual or touch stimuli.

Although we might identify with one pattern of sensory processing, the truth is that each person has an amount of each pattern of sensory processing. You might see yourself as primarily a sensation seeker, and still have some sensitivity to certain sensations. For example, you might really enjoy movement, visual experiences and textures, and be very sensitive to sounds. It is understanding your own patterns and the patterns of your family and friends that is helpful.


High Functioning Autism (HFA)

High functioning autism(HFA) is not an official diagnostic term, though it may be used as such. It tends to describe people who have many or all of the symptoms of autism but did not develop language typically. It’s a helpful diagnosis that can help guide appropriate treatment and school placement. On the other hand, it is important to be sure that a “real” diagnosis (that is, one that is described in the official diagnostic manual) is also placed in your records. It is this “real” diagnosis which may pave the way to medical and Social Security benefits down the road.

One useful explanation of the difference between Asperger syndrome and high functioning autism comes from the National Autism Society in the UK.  Here’s what it says:

  • Both people with HFA and AS are affected by the triad of impairments common to all people with autism.
  • Both groups are likely to be of average or above average intelligence.
  • The debate as to whether we need two diagnostic terms is ongoing.  However, there may be features such as age of onset and motor skill deficits which differentiate the two conditions
  • Although it is frustrating to be given a diagnosis which has yet to be clearly defined it is worth remembering that the fundamental presentation of the two conditions is largely the same. This means that treatments, therapies and educational approaches should also be largely similar. At the same time, all people with autism or Asperger syndrome are unique and have their own special skills and abilities. These deserve as much recognition as the areas they have difficulty in.

I would like to endorse Ursela Tipps, CPE, IBCFC as a great source of support and guidance for people with HFA or families with children with HFA.

Mrs. Tipps has provided educational and consulting services for families since 1996.  She has designed many of her programs as a result of her personal journey with (HFA) and as a mom of 9 children, four of whom have been diagnosed with Autism.  She provides consulting services for adults, children, and families with HFA in Katy and Houston.  Initial assessment consults are designed to assess practical and social needs, and to assist in devising growth plans for short and long term goals.

Programs include: Life coaching, social skills, nutritional assessments and dietary plans, independence training, personal care, organizational help, and educational plans.  Day, Evening, and weekend services are available.  Please contact Mrs. Tipps at 215-850-6807 or email her at



Article by Darla Farmer, Founder & President

If you have a child that is different from everybody else … be proud.  Uniqueness is priceless.  We are ALL a little different, and each of us has something special to offer.   We hope you are inspired to stand up and be the difference for our unique and differently able friends and family members.

Just two decades ago, autism was a mysterious and somewhat obscure disorder, commonly associated with the movie Rain Man.  It affected an estimated 1 in 5,000 children.   Today, a recent parental study by the CDC indicated “1 in 50 school age children are now diagnosed on the autism spectrum disorder”.

“I met a person last week who said they’d never met a person with autism before, and they said it made them nervous as they didn’t know what to do or say.  I admired their honesty.  We’re all a bit scared of those who are different.  I truly believe nowadays it’s not out of rudeness, it’s just because we desperately want to do the right thing, and we’re scared of getting it wrong”.  Dad to Donovan, a child diagnosed with autism.

Dad’s Do’s and Don’ts when meeting a child living with autism:


  • Smile.
  • Make a joke within the first twenty seconds.
  • Ignore it if a child pokes you. Try to see it as a compliment; you’ve put the person at ease enough to touch you.
  • Try your very best to ignore any comments about how fat/small/bald/tall/thin you are.
  • Relax.  Remember they’re a child.


  • Speak slowly and loudly like you’re ordering a beer in a bar.  The child is autistic, not stupid.
  • Feel downhearted when the child is more interested in your iPhone/iPad/anything with a screen.
  • Assume because they don’t maintain eye contact they’re not listening, they are.
  • Ever forgot what it was like to be a child.
  • Forget to smile some more.

“I printed out my do’s and don’ts, laminated them and stuck them up by the front door for all visitors to see.  It saves me so much time explaining my son is not Rain Main”.

The Physical and Emotional Benefits of Horseback Riding

The physical and emotional benefits of horseback riding have been known for several hundred years. Therapeutic riding has been a widely utilized form of therapy for many years, first in Europe, then in the United States.

I am very excited to announce that I am now a participant and volunteer in sharing and assisting those with disabilities with the healing equine therapies at SIRE Houston’s Therapeutic Equestrian Centers.  I’ve have personally used their services and wanted to share this as it may pertain to the benefits along your journey.

At SIRE, they bring special people together with horses so they can ride beyond — beyond limits, beyond dependence, and into fresh air, freedom and a lifelong, Texas- traditional sport.  For SIRE’s clients, therapeutic riding not only increases strength and independence, it also provides more freedom and independence to their families. Moreover, it can initiate more effective interaction and education at school, work, and in other community settings.

I encourage you to check out their website to learn more about them

Amazing Feedback From Last Night’s Event

oab blog postLast night was an amazing event!  As you may remember, I was part of a panel discussion of other successful adults with HFA/Asperger’s who shared their personal journeys.  This was held at the Denton A. Cooley, MD and Ralph C. Cooley, DDS – University Life Center.

I am getting a lot of great and positive feedback from the event.  People were thanking us for offering the event as well as giving them the opportunity to connect with us and have their questions answered.

There were so many amazing responses that I will be putting together a blog post with those points and in more detail of what I want to share that was discussed.  It may take some time to do but be on the lookout for that blog.

For now I want to thank everyone in attendance as the evening was a complete success!

Self-Determination is The Right of Persons With Autism

Society needs to protect those with autism in their way of being and from harm, this site is wonderful and I believe offers an expressiogood pic for oab or avin of choice insight and empowerment to advance those with autism into a stronger more solid life.  I want to share the resources of this site, and this page, even more in effort to bring forth clarity about the innocence of the trusting autistic mind.




Self-determination is the right of persons with disabilities to make choices about their own lives, to have the same rights and responsibilities as everyone else, and to speak and advocate for themselves.

Members of The Self-Advocacy Association of New York State describe Self-Determination as:

  • Having a choice;
  • Knowing more about ourselves;
  • Having dreams and goals and going after them;
  • Being in control;
  • Making our own decisions; and
  • Spending money our way;


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